"ARE YOU SURE YOU WANT TO EAT THAT, YOU DIDN'T WORKOUT?" - Jenn Brango

“ARE YOU SURE YOU WANT TO EAT THAT, YOU DIDN’T WORKOUT?”

SERIOUSLY DUDE, DID YOU REALLY JUST ASK THAT?

Sound familiar?  Sound like something you have been asked or maybe even said to someone?

Here is the thing… nothing wrong with wanting to workout and be healthy, but there came that day ..

When I realized there was something wrong with my purpose for working out when the very nature of my workouts were either punish or reward based on how “good” I was with my eating!

 “I DESERVE THIS, CAUSE I EARNED IT”

NOPE Can’t eat that because I didn’t workout, or YEP let’s go to town on that pizza cause I earned it!

SOUND FAMILIAR?

I became my own “parent” that would Reward and Punish my behaviors… Exercise and eating being the primary focus.

And God forbid I wasn’t being “GOOD”, watch out for the wrath of “JENN”, she ate a slice of pizza and didn’t workout for it… OH BOY!!!!

Hence my irritation when Mike would ask “DID YOU WORKOUT TODAY? or

ARE YOU SURE YOU WANT TO EAT THAT BECAUSE YOU DIDN’T WORKOUT?”

Can’t blame the guy, cause he knew there have been some major meltdowns about my being “GOOD” or “BAD”;

This is how it would go in my mind..

What do I do if I can’t get in my work out?

Wait I ate that meal knowing that I was going to work it off in my workouts this week! And now I can’t get in my workout, WHAT??? CRAP!!

A major learning moment for me, I had to LET IT GO…. be okay with not working out and still eating a slice of cake, a cookie or a burger.

So What!

Why?

As a woman who wants to help other woman with their struggles, I am going to tell you right here and now, I TOTALLY GET IT!

That is a struggle that I have been working on myself. 

Look if I can’t “control” my eating and workouts, then the rest of my life is considered “out of my control”, right?

Or is it? 

Am I a fraud?

Or am I a real person just like you that “GET’S IT”!

No judgement, I totally get it!

If this sounds familiar to you, and like me want to change this need to reward or punish yourself with diet and exercise;

Here are three things I have been doing to help break this habit of reward and punishment.

  • I eat what I eat, not anticipating the next workout to nullify any supposed “damage” I did.
    • Not wanting to be miserable and hating my life, I enjoy my food, and I enjoy my workouts. 
      • No it is not real easy to get here… it takes practice and learning and practice and learning.  
      • I know I didn’t get this way overnight, so I also know it takes some time to be okay with eating a cupcake or not or working out or not. 
  • I don’t have to be a certain weight, body fat, or look a certain way
    • OMG this is a tough one… right… because life is all good when you weigh XYZ or are wearing size X.  And life totally sucks when you are not “there”.  
      • As I accept myself now my exercise and eating contribute to me feeling good about myself.
  • It really comes down to control
    • Remember that parenting thing that I was doing on myself?  Rewarding and punishing myself for being “good” or “bad”?  When I felt like I wasn’t controlling my eating and exercise I truly believed I was a bad person.  
      • Now, no judgement  “good or bad”; when I am “out of control” (totally stressed out), it is an opportunity to learn what was my “trigger”, and use some coping skills, like reading, walking or taking a bath to relieve my stress in that moment (not punish myself with exercise or a deprivation diet)

 

So even if Mike or someone else asks me “Are you sure you are want to eat that, You didn’t workout?”

I will say “HELL YES I AM”, no need to explain!

As this is an ongoing journey, these suggestions only scratch the surface of how to make some positive changes.

I work on this stuff and more every single day.

If you feel like this touches something in you, you can relate, I would like to help. Feel free to contact me at jenn@jenniferbrango.com.

About the Author Jenn Brango

As a female entrepreneur and fitness professional, I have traveled a varied journey through this crazy world of fitness. I started my own journey as a young 12 year old seeking to find the perfect acceptable body. My own personal plan, started the fire, of self-accomplishment and empowerment, however it took a lot of twists and turns in my life journey, taking me from my 12 year old self to a woman in her 20’s diagnosed with fibromyalgia and hypothyroidism; to begin the process of finding my true purpose of today. It took those health issues to help me find my way back to rewrite my story. I use my journey and personal experiences of many ups and downs in health, to work right beside my clients to help them achieve their best self.

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